One gay gals' musings and observations while travelling on the streetcar
Super Lesbionic
S and I have gotten to the bottom of why our lesbian neighbours high-tailed it out of our place when we had them over a few weeks ago. Using the Internets, we found some web sites where Maureen has contributed some articles (she’s a writer) and some other information about herself. Those Internets sure do come in handy.
During the evening they were over, we got onto the topic of unions. We’re not fans of unions in our household and S tends to be quite vocal in her dislike of them. Also that night, conversation turned to talk of Maureen’s son. “How did your ex feel when he found out that you were gay?” S asked.
“Oh, no, no” Maureen began. “He and I were never together.”
“Maureen was a trailblazer when it came to lesbians having children on their own,” Samantha quickly chimed in.
“His father is a gay male friend of mine and we’ve raised him separately his entire life,” Maureen said, running her hands through her hair.
I thought it was a pretty safe assumption that Maureen had been either married to a man or in a relationship with one. A lot of gay women get involved with men before they come out and children are often a product of those relationships.
It wasn’t long after that conversation that Maureen and Samantha let us know they were leaving because they had a friend coming in from out of town.
Maureen had mentioned that she’s written for a few of the paper’s here in the city. Earlier today while on one such paper’s site, I decided to to a search for her name. The results gave me a last name to search with too and then my good friend Google gave me a slew of links to different web sites and pages Maureen had contributed to. On one such page, Maureen’s biography described her as being both a feminist and a union proponent. No wonder they ran out of our house so quickly, we are everything they oppose!
With this new knowledge, it makes S’s comment about having been with a man really funny. Maureen was probably seething the entire weekend. “How dare she assume I needed a man to have a baby?! I am woman, hear me roar!”
“I ran them out of the house!” S wrote me earlier as we exchanged messages about the information we were finding.
It looks like our friend Christine was spot on with her take on the night. Maureen is all about the struggle that lesbians and women (or maybe its womyn) have had to go through whereas S and I don’t give a lot of energy to those issues and struggles. Does that make us bad women? Bad lesbians? I don’t think so but Maureen likely thinks otherwise. Hence, the lack of an invite to go over to their house.
I’m glad we’ve found the information we have; our differences of opinion would have been discovered eventually. At least now we can cut the ties without having gotten too involved as friends. Its one thing to have strong opinions about matters, it’s another to be radical and aggressive about them.
One of S’s messages really summed it up perfectly, “We dodged a bullet with that one.”
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about 10 months ago
Damn straight, you dodged a bullet.
Although, I can be (and I am) friends with peeps who have different beliefs, when they are militant in those beliefs, I’d rather not waste my time.
Good riddance to the super dykes, whom I am positive cannot take a joke.
about 10 months ago
Oh, and great sleuthing! You would make an excellent stalker.
about 10 months ago
I can be (and am) friends with people who have different beliefs and opinions than my own, but if they ran out of the house after one comment, then they obviously can’t be friends with us. Had they taken the time to get to know more about us, they’d come to see we’re pretty decent folk to know.
As for the stalking, you don’t know the half of it. I’m typing this out while sitting out in your front yard. What’s for dinner?!
about 10 months ago
Womyn drive me mental! Crunchy granola types make me want to eat foie gras and dance around in leather coats with fur collars.
Yeah, you got off easy. S’s right.
about 10 months ago
It makes me wonder if Maureen and Samantha are regular attendees at the Michigan Womyn’s Festival.
about 10 months ago
So just to get it out there…I was in a union for 15 years..I saw the good and the bad…and I can say way more good.
But I get along with all people..even the people that hate unions. hahaha
Around here I would never assume the lesbos with kids have been married..nowadays it is the thing to get the sperm delivered. But lesbos my age..would probably be more likely to have been married to a man. But even if you get down to it..who cares? they should be able to deal with those questions..to me it shouldnt offend .
Also I like hanging out with all types of people..even if they disagree with my opinions on life..it opens up greater opportunity for me to learn where they get their thoughts from and them me. I think they are actually shallow for not reaching out to learn new ideas.. IMO…oh and they suck
about 10 months ago
My dad was in a union and there were definite plus’ for him but there were also times where the union served no purpose. I think unions were a good thing when they first started as they brought workers protection and benefits they wouldn’t have had on their own. Now though, unions are just another political body and it’s no longer about what’s best for the worker but what fattens the wallet of union leaders. Our city strike this past summer is a perfect example of that.
Also, I should stress that Maureen (and her g/f) are in their late forties/fifties which is why we assumed she’d been married. At that age, it’s quite common for lesbian’s with kids to have been married or in a long-term relationship with a man. Had they been younger, we probably wouldn’t have thought that.
And yes, they do suck and I’m glad we know that now instead of wasting any more time with them.